Bad manners turned good

Do to othersas you would havethem do to

Admittedly, I am a stickler for “treating others the way you want to be treated”. I’m sure my children secretly roll their eyes every time this comes out of my mouth. Maybe it’s my people-pleasing personality or my upbringing, but manners, and lack there of, are a passionate subject for me.

Some days I find myself frustrated by the driver who just can’t “find” their turn signal or the person who blatantly “forgets” to hold the door for me as I walk in the store right behind them. Sometimes, it is just so hard to let that go. As a child, my mom shared a bit of advice with me that I still find very helpful to this day and that is: you only have control over your own actions, and not the actions of others.  This is absolutely true. I was reminded of it this morning at the grocery store. I walked up to the deli counter at the same time as a gentlemen. The worker walked up and asked, “who was here first?” The gentleman and I spoke at the same time. I said, “go ahead sir” and he said, very bluntly, “I was.”. That irritated me. I could hear my moms words, “you can’t control other people”. Moms are smart.

When I go to heaven someday, I will have to answer for MY actions in both the hills and the valleys of my life. So even though someone may slam the door in my face or grace me with their hand gestures as I drive, I will smile, because that is what God would want me to do.

-Remember to liveHislove,



The story of the rich man and Lazarus

Luke 16:19-31

19 “There was a rich man who was dressed in purple and fine linen and lived in luxury every day. 20 At his gate was laid a beggar named Lazarus, covered with sores 21 and longing to eat what fell from the rich man’s table. Even the dogs came and licked his sores. 22 “The time came when the beggar died and the angels carried him to Abraham’s side. The rich man also died and was buried. 23 In hell, where he was in torment, he looked up and saw Abraham far away, with Lazarus by his side. 24 So he called to him, ‘Father Abraham, have pity on me and send Lazarus to dip the tip of his finger in water and cool my tongue, because I am in agony in this fire.’ 25 “But Abraham replied, ‘Son, remember that in your lifetime you received your good things, while Lazarus received bad things, but now he is comforted here and you are in agony. 26 And besides all this, between us and you a great chasm has been fixed, so that those who want to go from here to you cannot, nor can anyone cross over from there to us.’ 27 “He answered, ‘Then I beg you, father, send Lazarus to my father’s house, 28 for I have five brothers. Let him warn them, so that they will not also come to this place of torment.’ 29 “Abraham replied, ‘They have Moses and the Prophets; let them listen to them.’ 30 “‘No, father Abraham,’ he said, ‘but if someone from the dead goes to them, they will repent.’ 31 “He said to him, ‘If they do not listen to Moses and the Prophets, they will not be convinced even if someone rises from the dead.’ “

Yet another clue for Friday’s announcement!

Thankful Thursday: Be a Mary (or at least try)

Today, on Thankful Thursday, I am thankful for those close to me: my family.

I find that I tend to neglect my family as life seems to pull me in multiple directions. Laundry, dishes, homework, bills to pay…..there is always something to do!

If I could only be a little more like Mary (believe me, I do try 🙂 )


Luke 10:38-42 New International Version (NIV)

At the Home of Martha and Mary
38 As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. 39 She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet listening to what he said. 40 But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, “Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!”

41 “Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, 42 but few things are needed—or indeed only one.[a] Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.”


So today, I challenge you to be a Mary. Make your God and your family a priority. Call your sister when you normally would just text, hug your brother or take the time away from phones, computers and televisions to have an uninterrupted conversation with your spouse or child. Grab your bible instead of checking Facebook. Pray when you normally would read the paper.  Aren’t those important people and God worth your total attention!?

Go ahead, Mary would be proud.

-Always liveHislove,


Thoughtful Thursday-love, forgive and do not condemn (sounds exhausting!)

Judge not, and you will not be

This is, for me, one of the hardest verses to swallow. I feel pretty certain that I’m not alone here. Am I right?!

I don’t watch much TV (just usually at night with my husband to unwind). I have, however, recently noticed magazine covers at the grocery store with photos of a past olympian who is apparently going through gender reassignment. How as Christians should we react either in verbiage or thought? I have come to this conclusion…We should love. Plain and simple. For at the end of the day, it’s not my job to judge him or anyone else for that matter. Would I choose this for my life? No. But that is my own personal choice. It’s my job as a Christian to love others, so the love of Jesus can be seen through me.

 John 13:34-35 says this: “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.

Forgiving others. Whoa. Another big pill to swallow. Praying for those whom we need to forgive is a great start. This softens your heart to the person and situation and really creates self-healing. I don’t want to my heart to be strangled by an unforgiving spirit. I challenge you to add one person to your prayer list this week that you struggle with forgiving. For me, it’s a coworker who is rude to everyone he comes in contact with. He has flung hateful words at me too. Thankfully, my 40 year-old self is here and my 20 year-old self, or I would have a whole lot of praying to do to be forgiven for the words that I would speak! I am polite to him despite of his actions and I am resolved to the fact that praying for him is the right thing to do. I can’t control his actions or words, only mine.

Lord, please help me to be mindful of my words and thoughts and not to be judgmental of others, lest I be judged. Help me to have a forgiving spirit, loving others as God has created them. I pray this for myself and all those reading this.

After all, how can I expect to be forgiven, if I can’t forgive.

-Remember to liveHislove